The SYSTM · Blog
Research-backed writing on relationships, attachment, breathwork, identity, and the nervous system — by Summer Valentino.
Your nervous system decides who you're attracted to and why you keep repeating the same patterns — before your conscious mind weighs in.
Read →Anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant — these aren't personality types. They're nervous system strategies encoded in the body.
Read →Breath is the only autonomic function you can also consciously control. Here's the science and five techniques you can use today.
Read →People-pleasing, low self-worth, money wounds — these are nervous system states, not character flaws. That changes how you heal them.
Read →Most relationship conflict isn't about what it appears to be about. Learn to recognise dysregulation and change how you fight and repair.
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