The way you love is the way your nervous system learned to feel safe. Four weeks to stop reacting and start connecting.
You are not too much. You are not too distant. Your nervous system is running an old program inside your most important relationship — and it can be reset.
The fights that escalate too fast. The shutting down when things get close. The over-giving until theres nothing left. The need to fix it right now. None of these are character flaws. They are protective patterns your body built a long time ago to keep you safe.
Regulated in Love is four weeks of learning to feel safe in connection — so you can respond from your regulated self instead of your reactive one. Less spiral. More presence. The kind of love that does not cost you your nervous system.
Whether you are in a relationship right now or doing the work to hold a healthy one in the future, this is the same foundation: a nervous system that can stay open, present, and safe in connection. You do not need a partner to begin — you need a body that knows how to feel safe being close.
You cannot change what you cannot feel. Week one maps how your body reacts under relational stress — the exact moment connection starts to feel like threat — so you can catch the pattern before it runs the show.
Simple, repeatable tools — breathwork, somatic resets, and nervous system practices — that bring you out of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn in real time. This is how you stay grounded when everything in you wants to brace.
Rupture is not the problem — staying stuck in it is. Week three is about staying present in conflict, softening defenses, and finding your way back to each other without abandoning yourself in the process.
Secure love is not a personality type — it is a practice. The final week weaves everything together into a way of relating you can return to long after the challenge ends. Regulated, present, and fully yours.
Every session is live on Zoom. Cannot make it? Recordings are sent within 24 hours of each call, so you never miss a week. Between calls, you also receive guided videos, PDFs, and somatic exercises to keep the work moving in your own time.
Under stress, your nervous system reaches for the same protective move every time. Most of us live in one. See which one is running your relationship.
Conflict feels safer than uncertainty, so you meet closeness with control. Underneath the edge is a body that learned it has to defend itself.
When things get heavy you create distance, stay busy, or look for the exit. Movement feels like safety, and stillness feels like being trapped.
Overwhelm pulls you offline. You go quiet, numb, or far away — present in the room but no longer reachable inside it.
You keep the peace by disappearing. Their comfort comes first, every time, until you have lost track of what you actually need.
Not sure which one you are? Take the free nervous system quiz first — then this challenge will hit different.
I am a certified trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and a nervous system, touch, and somatic practitioner.
Early in life I learned what my template for love was, and I carried it into my teenage years and my early adulthood — showing up in relationships the only way my nervous system knew how. The practices I now teach are what finally set me free from those patterns. They shifted the way I showed up in love, led me to love myself fully, and slowly changed how I show up in my relationships today.
Regulated in Love is me handing you those same tools — so the way you love can feel like home instead of high alert.
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No. This is about your nervous system, not your relationship status. Whether you are partnered, dating, single, or healing so you can hold a healthy relationship in the future, the work is the same — it builds a body that can stay open and safe in connection, including the connection with yourself.
Every live call is on Zoom and recorded, with the recording sent to you within 24 hours. The daily practices and extra materials are self-paced, so you can move through the four weeks on your own schedule and never fall behind.
More than okay. Everything is taught from the ground up in plain language, with gentle, accessible practices. No experience needed — just willingness.
Plan for one live session plus a few short practices through the week. Most days ask for ten minutes or less.
No. Regulated in Love is a focused four-week challenge built around relationships. The SYSTM is the deeper eight-week group container. This is a beautiful place to begin.